"When I was 12 weeks pregnant, I went for a check-up and had an ultrasound. The doctor told me that something was wrong without specifying what it was. The next day I woke up and noticed that the bed sheet were stained with blood so I went back to the clinic where the doctor confirmed that I had lost my baby, and I had a dilation and curettage (D&C) to remove the baby.

Unfortunately, I did not receive any information on why I had a miscarriage. The doctor was very kind to me, however he didn’t provide any explanation. The nurses however were very cold and unfriendly and they behaved as if it was just a medical procedure, nothing else.

Among all the staff at the hospital the only one who had a bit of humanity was the doctor, who later reassured me that I could try again to get pregnant. However, no one offered me any support. After the D&C, the doctor just handed my antibiotics, told me miscarriages were very common and told me to try again. 

I was able to talk freely about my miscarriage to my family members. I can talk about it openly now but when I see small children I still get very sad. Where I live in Colombia, miscarriage is not a taboo subject and people talk about it, however much more can and must be done, particularly in hospitals where healthcare providers should be trained because the come across these cases very often.

Personally I would have liked to receive moral and psychological support that could have cleared my doubts and helped me to heal."